Whining and Wearing: Which Is Better?
Currently reading a novel where the main character, Nate, is a fairly recently divorcee. Ever since his ex-wife dropped the bombshell on him that she was leaving, he’s been lonely. As he thought back on it, the bombshell wasn’t so unexpected-after all, he’d been lonely in their marriage for a while.
The loneliness hadn’t yet subsided, but he continued living his life as best he knew how. In the words of the author:
“He didn’t whine about it…he just wore it.”
Is there anything more annoying than someone who whines? Whiners use up so much emotional energy whining and trying to evoke sympathy-energy they COULD be using to better their situation they’re whining about already!
In the case of Nate, I respect the fact he’s not a whiner. But still, he wears it.
Know anyone like this? Brave face forward, quiet and determined, but the kind of person who, with just a glance, you can see is filled with, well, something harming their life? Ever been this kind of person?
We will all, ALL face adversity. Duh. That’s what we humans have that comes part and parcel with this thing we call “life.” Yet, some choose to complain about their lot in life and never work to fix it. Some seem more immoveable from their situation, but they don’t voice their discontent. Which is better? I dunno. Personally, I don’t want to be either of them.
But when it gets right down to it? Whining just sucks. It accomplishes nothing and makes a horse’s arse of the whiner. So, whine or wear? Easy call, huh?