I get this question a lot: have you forgiven the drunk driver who took your sight? My answer, as always is this: Forgiveness is a vague concept. When I get a true definition of forgiveness, I’ll be able to tell you yes or no.
Well, as my beautiful bride and I were chatting this morning, the concept of forgiveness came up. She’s pretty darned brilliant, so I asked her to define forgiveness in her terms. After discussing this further, I think we hammered out what our definition is:
When one can remember, acknowledge and accept being wronged, but that awareness does not bring about emotions that are negative to that person nor does it consume his/her life, then forgiveness has taken place.
Is this correct for anyone else? I’m noot 110% certain it’s my final definition, but if you have any thoughts, please leave a comment or E mail me directly. This will probably be the topic of this month’s newsletter, and I would love to be able to think this through fully from many different points of view. Thanks, folks!